Comments on: Why So Mad At Dad?

By: Daddy Files

Daddy Files — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 01:57:01 +0000

No doubt Crystal, and it sounds like your husband could definitely do more. It’s no one’s “job” to do the dishes or the laundry. MJ and I have an arrangement where I do the dishes, take care of the dogs and cook 1-2 times a week. In return, she does all the laundry, most of the cootking and vacuums. And we both take care of Will 50/50. Both people have to put in the effort.

I was talking about the general stereotype out there that every mom is a martyr while dads go around doing whatever they want. Sometimes I feel like that’s the accepted stereotype and I have a real problem with that.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 18:07:45 +0000

While I do agree with you on some points I do have to say there really are some men out there that are lazy or just don’t care. While I’d like to think mine does care he certainly has a ways to go in the lazy department.

For example when I had my son I had to do everything. And yes I mean everything. Our 5 year old I had to lay out all her outfits for the duration of my hospital stay, not because I’m over bearing or think he can’t put an outfit together but b/c he won’t. He would let the 5 year old do it and I would end up getting calls from the school about her not dressing for the weather. On top of that the day I came home from the hospital it was to a sink full of dishes and 5 days of laundry. Did he even think to do them? No. Should I have had to ask? I think not. And even in the days when we came home he never did a single dish, picked up the house or helped me with getting up in the middle of the night. When asked why he didn’t do those things….his response was it wasn’t his job. I was recovering from having a baby, he was home on leave and he spent the entire time playing computer games. Just made me want to kick him and yes complain about it. And yes I felt I had every right too.

Plain and simple though I think it’s wrong to group every woman who complains into the same category. Some of us really do have a valid reason to complain and if hte shoe were on the other foot the man would be complaining too.

By: Teresa

Teresa — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:27:53 +0000

I understand what you’re getting at. I hate hearing women complain about their husbands and most of the time I think they are overexaggerating. My husband is a saint when it comes to helping with our daughter. He takes care of her all evening when I’m cooking.

BUT… I will not abide your “we can’t change” attitude about the computer. I am not asking for him to read my mind, but I do think he can be observant enough to see I’m working my butt off while he’s reading things on the internet. I don’t think I should have to ask for help. I will, but I don’t think I should have to.

Otherwise, I agree completely. Especially to the part about women being irrational! I make some pretty unreasonable requests sometimes.

By: JEE

JEE — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 15:25:41 +0000

Complaints like those always baffle me. I mean, either they knew full well that he was a selfish jerk prior to bearing his children or he’s not a selfish jerk at all and she’s just really bad at communicating her needs/wishes.

I guess I lucked out. My ex is very involved with our kids and so is my guy. I could be laid up sick in bed for 2 weeks and the two of them would keep my household together. It’s actually more like a small militia that mobilizes when I get sick, lol.

By: Badass Geek

Badass Geek — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 12:54:09 +0000

I hear ya.

I think part of the reason we keep hearing about it is that there are too many douchebags out there who don’t help with the house or the kids that give guys a bad name. The thing people need to realize is that there are exceptions to every rule.