It was good to meet you the other day, despite the weather!

trust me, it wears on me (cabin fever aughh! lol)… but.. i saw that we were doing okay enough for me to stay at home and i let dave know that i’d rather have to cut back on things than miss out on her babyhood.. david let me do it. she’d let you know if it really bothered her that much.

when my daughter is old enough to go to school and i go back to work (or if i do before then), if i just so happen to make more than dave (HAHA YEAH RIGHT – i don’t have near the experience in anything that he does, but just sayin’), then i will be more than happy to give back to him! it would be the least i could do!

you guys have a pretty good set up, from what i can tell : ). and i don’t know her.. but i get the feeling MJ is happier working than not…

Before our daughter arrived we talked about our working situation at length. After doing a few sums it became clear that if I carried on working after our daughter was born, my salary would just cover childcare costs and my commute to work. With that in mind, becoming a stay at home dad seemed like a bit of a no-brainer, neither of us were particularly keen on the childcare idea anyway.

I know how you feel about “slacking off”, I wish that I was still contributing financially. Some of my male friends (the ones without kids) think I’m the luckiest man alive and have it easy. I’m quick to point out that becoming a parent and losing a salary is not easy in anybody’s book. Having said all this, I’m really enjoying spending so much time with my daughter, I know in this respect I really am lucky.

We’re fortunate that Mrs D works pretty close so gets to see our daughter before & after work. At weekends I’ll take a bit more of a back seat and let them spend more time together – it’s nice for me to have a break too!

I guess I’d just ignore what convention says, if both parents are happy with the working arrangements and are actively involved with raising their kids then it’s all good…

He stays at home and I work. Sometimes I get shit from people because their own idea of how it should be differs from mine. He hasn’t worked since he got out of the Army. Sometimes, for shits and giggles, I call him a freelance writer. Which he would be if I could convince him to publish any of it, lol. There is, of course, many other circumstances that contributed to our current arrangement. The key is in not letting others opinions and judgments determine how you see your situation. If everyone in the household is happy, go with it.