It’s been awhile since I bitched and moaned about some of the moms on my parenting message boards. So without further delay, I give you the recent debate regarding whether men, particularly gay men, should be allowed to babysit little girls and vice versa women for little boys. I shit you not…
Basically, one of the moms said she was scrambling for a sitter but thankfully one of her good friends volunteered. He’s trustworthy and nice…but gay. And her husband was OK with him watching their daughter but only because he was gay. He said he would never let a straight man watch his daughter, nor would he let a straight woman watch their son, if they had one.
The original poster herself is asking a decent question and trying to enlist some help. I don’t have any problem with her, although I think her husband is a complete idiot. But what’s worse than his bigoted stance on babysitters is some of the responses. Check it out:
“I would never let a man babysit my daughter. I would also never let a gay individual watch my children as I disagree with that lifestyle.”
“No, I would not let any man baby sit my kids aside from my husband. I know that most men are awesome and wouldn’t do anything, but it just isn’t a risk I am willing to take. My husband loves kids, his kids, but he says “normal” men don’t like hanging ut with other people’s kids.”
“God does not hate homosexuals, fornicators, or adulters but he hates what they do. I don’t think she was out of line saying she wouldn’t let a homosexual watch her kid, I wouldn’t either. The same as I wouldn’t let a smoker, alchoholuc or anyone who’s lifestyle I don’t agree with. We all are responsible for raising our kids the way we see fit. How could you teach your child that homosexuality is wrong and yet still let them babysit your kids, it’s sending mixed messages.”
“I dont think I would let a man watch my daughter and I’m not sure about any future son’s. Even my brother or close male friends-anyone could do something and men seem to be likely culprits (I know women do too, but its less likely.) I just feel that you cant be too careful.”
“I personally only let my husband, Dad and my brother in law watches them WITH my sister once in a while. Other then that no. I am not comfortable with it. Not in this day in age. I am okay with it as long as a female is with them and it’s someone I completely trust. Other then that NO.”
“I believe that homosexuality is immoral, just as thievery.”
There’s more but it really goes downhill from there. I just couldn’t believe some of the crap I was reading.
First of all, let’s tackle the whole males babysitting girls and females babysitting boys. What the hell does gender matter? If you know the person and you trust the person enough to watch your kids, then that’s all that matters. Period. End of story. What if you have a daughter and a son? Are you going to hire a male babysitter AND a female babysitter for the same night? It’s fricking lunacy.
And then there’s the assumption that men are nothing but perverted child molesters who can’t be trusted to watch children. What the hell is that all about? As if women never have been found to abuse children. Nope, instead it’s all the men. Because that’s an intelligent line of thinking. Dads have a hard enough time overcoming all the stereotypes and prejudices that are already out there. We don’t need this too.
But nothing upsets me more than the hatred toward gays. It’s like these fundamentalist Christian wackjobs believe that homosexuality is contagious. And if the queers start babysitting, all the kids are going to catch the gayness. I wonder if these same parents discriminate in other ways as well. Do they have a problem with blacks and hispanics? What about pagans? Or redheads? Do all babysitters have to have a morality background check performed to make sure they match up with all of the parents’ values? Because God forbid these people subject their children to some diversity. That would be pretty horrible right? Imagine, people with different beliefs and points of view? The horror!
I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But the difference is their opinions discriminate against a whole segment of the population whereas mine are live and let live. And what’s really scary is how these kids are going to turn out if they’re surrounded by the same discriminatory and bigoted people all the time. They’ll probably end up being homeschooled too. Anything to ensure differing points of views are kept out.
It’s just sad.