Big Changes

For five months I’ve been worrying about MJ not having a job. All I could think about was the money, making ends meet, possibly losing the house, having to borrow from generous relatives, etc. So when she got a great job (thank you Citizens Bank!!!) I was elated. I was on cloud 9. I was ecstatic.

And then, I became very aware of what her new job means.

You see, her new job is close to an hour away. That means she’ll be getting up before me. I’ll be taking care of Will in the morning which is fine, I do that anyways. But I’ll have to drop Will off at daycare three times a week. And since she won’t be home in time, I have to pick him up from daycare too. And feed him dinner. Four nights a week, MJ will be leaving the house before Will is awake and getting home an hour before he goes to bed.

I’m not complaining, it’s just that I wasn’t fully aware how accustomed I’ve become to having MJ stay at home with Will. I wasn’t shirking my responsibilities as a dad by any means, but now I’m responsible for EVERYTHING! Every day except for Tuesday (because my saintly mom volunteered to watch him for a day) he’s my responsibility and mine alone.

If you know anything about journalism, you know it’s not exactly a 9 to 5 job. Something explodes, I go. There’s a murder or a bad accident, I get called. The news doesn’t wait and it certainly doesn’t care that I have a little boy to pick up from daycare. But I have no choice anymore, Will has to be picked up and it has to be me who does it. I’ll admit, that pisses me off a little since MJ isn’t giving up any of her work time, but then again she makes much more money than I do.

It’s tough going back to the whole daycare thing. And a little sad too because it was nice having her at home with Will everyday. I really like our daycare provider and I think he’ll have a great time, but there’s no substitute for mom and dad.

It’s gonna be a shock to the system as I get used to this routine again, but it’s absolutely necessary and, like most parents, I just have to try and walk the tightrope balancing everything as I go.

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11 thoughts on “Big Changes

  1. This day will come for us soon enough as now my wife takes BabyKV to work with her. The availability of her job my become less at the end of this year. Hang in there. You will get used to the new routine before you know it.

  2. Feel free to drop him off to me any time!! When you have three a few more doesn’t make any difference, lol.

  3. Good luck with the big changes. It makes me tired thinking about doing all that stuff. I do as much as possible when I am home but I would not want to trade jobs with my wife. I do not look forward to her going back to work some day.

  4. Good luck!
    My husband stays home with our daughter, and I’m already stressed about her going back to daycare in the fall. It’s hard to change your routine, and I am loving the fact that she’s home with Daddy during the day right now.

  5. what sucks is you’ll have no work all day while he’s in daycare and then, 10 minutes before you have to pick him up, you’ll get hit.

  6. In this day and age, there are so many families that contain two working parents out of necessity. It’s going to be tough adjusting. I do feel for you. I used to be a reporter and editor, and you’re right, the news won’t wait for you. Surpisingly, kids do adjust pretty well. I was one of the lucky ones. I got to stay home for seven years, working from home most of that time. When I did go back, it was very part time at first. As the children grew, so did my hours at work. Good luck to all of you.

  7. Well, it sounds like MJ scored a good job, so that’s great! You’ll work it out. Some days will be rough with your kind of a job, that’s for sure, but at least you’ll have plenty of blog fodder ;)

  8. I just went through this in February.
    I was so used to having my son at home with me everyday that I wasn’t sure what to do with myself all day — you know, aside from job searching of course.
    Luckily he absolutely loves daycare and he’s finally talking and trying new foods, so I suppose it could have been worse.
    :)

  9. Don’t worry Aaron – you will do it all just fine. I can’t tell you how many times I have been “almost late” to daycare (two seconds before daycare closes) and Rylee was the last kid there. Let go of the guilt, our kids are far too young to remember any of this – all you can do is try your best. Congrats to MJ for getting a new job!!

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