From England, I’d like you to read the dumbest thing I’ve encountered in quite a while.
Basically, this British stay-at-home-dad doesn’t think there should be a Father’s Day. He cites the schmaltzy commercialism and the cheesy Hallmark cards, which I actually agree with, but he starts to lose me with his “reasoning.” And then, when he gets to comparing and contrasting Father’s Day with Mother’s Day, he makes me downright angry. Take these statements for example:
“But a father in a mother’s role will never be the real deal: there are instincts that only mothers possess.”
“Mothers can tell, for example, if a child is running a fever just be glancing at him, and mothers can hear their own child waking up in the night while the house is full of revellers. I suspect, also, that the innate need to go the extra, extra mile for your offspring is maternal. So maybe Mothering Sunday is valid for just that reason.”
Are you kidding me with this crap???
First of all, a father in a nurturing “mother’s” role can never be the real deal? That is absolute bullshit. Why? Just because we can’t breastfeed? Loving and caring for a child is not an instinct that is restricted to mothers. I’m not sure who this idiot thinks he is or who he’s speaking for, but it certainly isn’t me or any of the dads I know. I’m just as good a caretaker and parent as my wife is, and part of that is because paternal instincts kicked in the minute Will was born. So don’t refer to it as a “mother’s” role because despite your misguided assumptions, mothers do not have the market cornered when it comes to parenting.
And second, don’t give me that tired old “But a mother just knows” crap. That is the biggest myth out there. Mothers are great, but they’re not supernatural. They know if their child is running a fever just by looking at him because they’re not stupid. The kid’s face is probably flushed. But guess what? DADS CAN TELL THE SAME THING! And quite contrary to what our jolly good chap of an author thinks, I’m the one who always hear my son wake up or make the slightest noise at night. The Revolutionary War could be going on in Will’s room and she would continue to snore right through it.
The author makes it sound like a vagina doubles as a magical antenna that gives women special parenting abilities. But I have news for this moron, it’s not our anatomical plumbing that makes us good parents.
I’m used to other women spewing this bile but I can’t believe a dad — and a stay-at-home-dad at that — would let this kind of crap leave his mouth. Mother’s Day is already celebrated a million times more intensely than Father’s Day. And now this guy wants to do away with what little recognition dads get? Screw you pal! I don’t expect expensive gifts on Father’s Day but I like the idea of dedicating one day to honoring dads. We do it for moms, grandparents, secretaries, veterans, the Easter Bunny, and the birth of a fictional baby in a manger on December 25. I don’t think it’s too much to ask that we have one day dedicated to honoring and thanking dads.
As far as I’m concerned, there’s no room for this kind of dad-on-dad crime. If this guy wants to get rid of Father’s Day across the Pond, let him. He’s England’s problem. But in America, we should put an added emphasis on Father’s Day, not minimize it and we certainly shouldn’t do away with it!