I have to admit, I have traditionally skewered feminists and feminism in general.
I can’t stand the hardcore bra burners who use the word “womyn” because women has “men” in it. I balk at the politically correct zealots who claim a Sports Illustrated swimsuit calendar in the workplace is “sexual harassment.” And quite frankly, I think sexual harassment in general is too often used as a way for unscrupulous women — er, sorry, womyn — to get ahead in the workplace. Unscrupulous men too. In fact, I’ve seen firsthand evidence of that when a woman put forth a ludicrous lawsuit against someone close to me for sexual harassment. It was ultimately thrown out, but only after court costs and headaches.
But this whole Brett Favre fiasco (NSFW) is really pissing me off.
I’m sure by now you’ve all heard about the Minnesota Vikings QB and future Hall of Famer Favre, who allegedly tried to hook up with a Jets cheerleader two years ago. Basically all you need to know is Favre — a husband, father and grandfather — allegedly took a liking to this cheerleader and had someone in the Jets organization set him up with her number. He then left weird voice mails for her. She reportedly rejected him at every turn. So Brett did what any of us would do: he took pictures of his cock and sent them to her cell phone.
Because that’s sane and all.
Look, I’m not surprised by this. How many athletes and celebrities end up either sexting or performing in leaked sex tapes? It’s astronomical. Professional sports players are not role models and they are certainly not model citizens. So if you’re looking for yet another column from some nobody on the Internet jumping on his high horse and condemning Favre for falling into an immoral abyss, keep looking.
But getting back to feminism and my opening statements, the issue I have with all of this is how some people are blaming the cheerleader.
As far as I can tell, this woman did nothing wrong. She didn’t give her phone number to Favre, someone else gave it to him. She never accepted his adulterous propositions. And she certainly didn’t ask him to send pictures of his tiny dick to her cell phone. Brett Favre did all those things of his own volition. And last time I checked, Favre is a millionaire and a grown man. Well, grown except for certain areas I guess.
Yet when I listen to talk shows, read comments on the Internet and talk to people about the Favre situation, I hear a lot of angst toward the cheerleader. A real “blame the victim” mentality if you will. People say she brought it on herself. That she was asking for it. They say she’s doing it for the money because she’s just another gold-digging whore.
The only problem is she didn’t seek Favre out. Not only didn’t she ask for it, she repeatedly told him no. And she’s had the pictures for two years. Two years when Favre was performing well and earning millions, even getting to the NFC championship game last year. If she wanted to strike when the iron was hot and maximize potential profits, she would’ve come forward long ago when Favre was still on top. Not now that he’s an ailing, fragile has-been who is three weeks away from (another) retirement. But she didn’t, and in fact still hasn’t. A third party came forward with all of this after Deadspin paid him/her. The cheerleader has never, at least that we know of, tried to blackmail Favre in way, shape or form.
Yet I’ve heard people — both men and women — call her a whore and a gold-digger.
She did nothing wrong yet she’s taking the blame. It’s sad and completely pathetic. Some people aren’t even bothering to read the details. They’re literally just making up the story in their heads and filling in the blanks as they please. Even presented with the facts of the story, they say things like “Oh c’mon, you know she was after his money” or something to that effect. Everything is pinned on her because she’s a woman, she’s poorer than Favre and she must’ve wanted a piece of the celebrity.
Not the wildly popular Favre. Not the grown man who sought her out. Not the husband of 14 years. Not the father of two daughters. And certainly not the grandfather of an infant boy. Nope, no one wants to blame the 500-touchdown, 70,000 passing yards gridiron hero. So while I may have knocked the ultra-feminists before, I can see how their views get so extreme and why they’re so angry. I would be too.
But even beyond that, think about how fucking dumb it is for Favre to have been caught like this. If you’re a professional athlete who’s married and been around for 20 years no less, how stupid do you have to be to leave someone voice mails? And not only that, to send pictures of your dick that can be saved, passed around or posted on the Internet. Favre is not only a scumbag, he’s the dumbest scumbag on the planet.
But as I listen to the people who defend him, I’m left to wonder if they’re defending him because he’s a famous athlete or simply because he’s a man. Look, are there quintessential gold-digging whores out there? Absolutely. Both male and female. And I’m fully aware there are men and women who make a habit of targeting the rich and famous for extortion purposes. I get it.
But that’s not always the case. And it certainly doesn’t seem like what’s happening here. So stop blaming a woman who did nothing wrong. Stop making up stories to suit your own misogynistic beliefs. And place the blame on Favre, the married guy who not only tried to cheat on his wife and shame his family, but did so on tape and (literally) in the flesh.
And I thought his fourth quarter back-breaking interceptions were the worst thing about him.