I assume you’ve all heard the controversy surrounding the recent Miss America pageant. If not, check out this video of Miss California answering her question about whether she thinks gay marriage should be allowed.
OK, a few things here…
I do not agree with Miss California’s point of view. I am a firm proponent of gay marriage and I’m proud to live in a state where our legislators refused to relinquish civil and equal rights under intense pressure from the conservative right. I think gay marriage should absolutely be legal in all 50 states, because everyone is entitled to happiness and equal standing.
That having been said, I think all the outrage over her remarks is misguided.
Look, the judges asked her a question and she gave her honest opinion. And that’s fine, we all have different opinions and, if anything, it made a boring beauty pageant interesting for a few minutes. I’d rather all the contestants be honest instead of giving stock answers and constantly wishing for world peace.
However, on the flip side, I don’t think Miss California should be bitching about losing the contest because of her answer. She had to have known that she was going to alienate judges and a huge population of people with that answer. That’s just the reality of it. Besides, it’s a beauty pageant. They teach you to give answers in a vague, non-committal way that’s supposed to endear you to the judges. So if she really wanted to win, she would’ve couched her answer differently. Apparently she felt that being honest was more important than winning, and I respect that. But you can’t have your cake and eat it too. If she wants to be open and honest that’s fine, but she shouldn’t feign shock over losing because of it.
I think it’s absolutely hilarious that she tried to temper her remark with a “no offense to anybody” disclaimer thrown in at the end. It’s like saying “Well I personally believe that marriage should only be for a certain group of people and I don’t feel the rest of you homosexuals are deserving of the same rights as myself…but no offense!” It’s a cop out and it’s a silly opinion.
Gay marriage has been legal in Massachusetts for five years next month. I’ve been in a gay wedding because I have gay relatives. And I can say with certainty that gay marriage has not eroded straight marriage at all. The world hasn’t ended and the sanctity of straight peoples’ marriages is completely unaffected by gay people choosing to wed. There is no reason gay marriage shouldn’t be legal. None.
But it’s a free country and we can all weigh in on the issues. But if you’re a contestant in a beauty pageant whose success depends on impressing judges (many of whom are gay), then don’t complain about losing when you insult and alienate them on national TV.